Remember child pornography is more than paedophiles taken images of the victim child, today it is also about the child themselves having taken explicit pictures/videos of themselves, prompted by a paedophile, that can later be used to blackmail the child to be involved in some sexual act! Read more at BBC News.
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Making friends – Breaking friends on Facebook ;-)
I made a post some time ago on how divorce lawyers are using Facebook as a goldmine of incriminating evidence especially when it comes to custody of children. Well the practice is becoming all too common and a favourite hang-out for divorce lawyers is on social networking sites. The latest stats are as follows:
“Facebook is the unrivaled leader for turning virtual reality into real-life divorce drama, Viken said. Sixty-six percent of the lawyers surveyed cited Facebook foibles as the source of online evidence, she said. MySpace followed with 15 percent, followed by Twitter at 5 percent.
About one in five adults uses Facebook for flirting, according to a 2008 report by the Pew Internet and American Life Project. But it’s not just kissy pix with the manstress or mistress that show up as evidence. Think of Dad forcing son to de-friend mom, bolstering her alienation of affection claim against him.”
Read more at Associated Press.
Inmates in from Cebu Provincial Detention and Rehabilitation Center are a part of the conversation
What an inspiration! The power of social networking, we all have a voice!
Any of us can be a part of the conversation wherever we are, whoever we maybe and in whatever format it may take. This gives energy, from a place that I would imagine is full of negative energy. It gives me hope. I hope it gives you the same. BTW. this is just one of many, I believe the first such upload was Thriller in 2007 just look around YouTube to find more!
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Delete your Facebook account?
An account can be permanently deleted by going to the Help Centre in Facebook… interesting tips provided here on how to protect your privacy on Facebook with the new controls, and how you can delete your account!
You know I’ve thought about it many times… committing Facebook suicide, as I have aptly called it. Why “suicide”? Well you know your virtual identity can continue to live after you die if you wish. I have made some postings on this before. This means that you need to make decisions on how/if your virtual identity will exist and the same applies with your real life.
Why would you want to delete your Facebook account? My reasons were that it was getting too complicated with the privacy settings, and one of ‘my friends’ were not as careful as myself in what is posted (some content was on the level of ‘adults only’) and their privacy settings were non-existent, so it didn’t look good if I was in their friend list, yet I didn’t have the heart to tell them that this was a problem for me.
Other friends of mine have had different reasons for wanting out on Facebook. They have for example, been in relationships that have extended into Facebook, and it complicated an already complicated break-up in their physical lives when they have joint friends, newsfeed that informs each other what they are up to without each other… this means that they have to stop being friends on Facebook, but still means that joint friends can leak information to each other. In nasty break-ups I even heard of cases whereby one partner deleted ‘friends’ that continued to be friends with his ‘ex’.
The other issue has been those that have setup Facebook accounts and mixed personal and professional friends.. this is especially sensitive if professional friends includes customers. One way of dealing with this which is what a friend of mine did was deactivate his account for about 6-12 months following a relationship break up and then ‘clean up’ his friends. This way he was able to remove many friends discretely without them missing him as his account had been out of the loop for quite some time.
So in the end I didn’t delete my Facebook account… and why? Well because I enjoy the social element. It keeps me in contact with my family, friends and some of my professional network that have become friends over the years. I never got into the snail-mail, letter writing thing ;-). I love sharing moments that I have with my daughter on Facebook, and it lets me share with my family that live in other countries to watch and be involved in my daughter growing up. I love seeing how different friends of mine use Facebook to communicate and share. There is so much good here, it has become a part of my lifestyle… so long as I can keep it private, and mine and my daughter’s personal life does not become commercialized. Is that asking too much?
Headhunters want to link
I was interested to see a posting on one of the groups that I belong to on LinkedIn “I want to increase my connections, please send me an invite to connect if you are interested”. It was a headhunter.
happy birthday to me :-D
Yes that’s right, today is my birthday! And it feels amazing to be… well on the other side of 45, getting closer to 50, and yet a part of this amazing information age with you!
I was thinking how much things have changed on my birthday over the years. This morning when my dear daughter woke me, the first thing I did after feed her, was go down and make tea, go to my study and work on my MBA paper. Well the making tea bit is quite a normal day, in fact, as is the studying, but before the study bit I couldn’t resist going online to check Facebook. Here my friends had already started posting on my Wall birthday greetings from Australia, Middle East and UK, and it is only 6AM here in Sweden 😀
And this is what has changed, despite all its warts, Facebook enables my “friends” to share in my special day. Give me a great feeling that others are interested in what is happening in my life. In fact it doesn’t matter how lonely we may have felt in our life before Facebook, now, today in this most amazing information society that we are all a part of, we will never be lonely again. We get so many “flowers” as it is called in some European cultures (which means nice words) when we login. We are all a part of a conversation. This conversation enables each one of us to feel part of a community, a community that matters, where each on of us have a voice and where we can be sure that someone out there is listening and interested in hearing what you and me have to say.
I just love this quote from Mena Trott, President of Six Apart…..
“Many ordinary people are scared of blogging because they feel that they have nothing to say. Yet mundane is interesting; it’s OK to talk about your sandwich. To a handful of people in the world it may mean a lot.”
This just about sums up the beauty not just of blogging, but of social networking. It has changed over the last 10 years the dynamics of how everything is working in our world. The world is smaller, cultural boundaries are being crossed, it is almost as though we have found a common language to speak, and this is not just English but something more profound. True many of us are communicating online in English, an abbreviated version, spelling and grammatics have lost their importance. We can write blog posts, post how we are feeling on Facebook, or twitter, or both. We are communicating with pictures, audio, video, everything that enables us to reach out and share how we are feeling and seeing the world outside of the boundaries created by the language that we may be imprisoned by, or empowered by. And this is what is so amazing!
A taster for you non-gamers
I could become a South Park fan. Here is another episode “Make love, not Warcraft” that gives you ‘non-gamers’ a taste of the appeal of World of Warcraft. Worth a look even if you don’t like South Park, as was the case with myself.
I think it is surprisingly enough a good tool to help those of us ‘non-gamers’ to understand what drives gamers, which could be your kids, to spend so much time in these virtual worlds. This taster is enough to give you a feel for the addictive nature of online gaming.
Wait for it….
Facebook to simplify privacy settings as from 26th May….. opps that’s today 😉
Talk about connections!
I almost fell over laughing when checking my linkedin profile this evening and saw the section “viewers of this profile also viewed….” Barack Obama President of the United States of America! LOL….. well it is only a 2nd degree connection but still… talk about cool connections!
UK national ID card scheme to be scrapped!
Wow, I love this news that UK’scoalition government will be keeping their promises to “reverse and restrain many of the surveillance systems that have marked its citizens out as the most watched in the world,” THINQ.co.uk reports. Plans include scrapping the National Identity Register and ID card, as well as biometric passports, and expanding the Freedom of Information Act. Other coalition commitments include removing innocent people’s records from the DNA database, regulating the use of CCTV and halting the prior government’s plan to retain national records of e-mail and communications data.
This will include a proposal to “outlaw” the finger-printing of children at school “without parental permission”. It will be interesting to see how they pan out in the statistics department for Privacy International “Most surveyed countries report” in a couple of years 🙂